Sexual Intelligence—My New Book is Published Today!

My new book is out from HarperCollins today. And people already love it!

“Read this book if you want to let go of your inhibitions and improve your sex life.” –Psychology Today magazine

“Transform your sex life? Ultimate satisfaction? Look no further. Marty Klein’s new book offers something better.” –Salon.com

“No matter where you are, if you want to get the most out of sex and relationships, there’s something here for you.” –Good Vibrations

Here are some of MY favorite quotes from the book. Buy the book here, and then let me know which is your favorite.

Sexual Intelligence: Quotable quotes

* For many people, sex is an opportunity to fail. And for some people, not failing is the best that sex ever gets.

* Feeling good (whatever that means to you and your partner) is the big payoff of sex—-not orgasm.

* Sexually, men and women are more alike than similar. They typically want the same things from sex, and are typically concerned about the same things.

* If sex is so important, why leave it for the last thing at night, when you’re too tired to do anything else?

* What do people say they want from sex? Pleasure and closeness. But that’s not what most people focus on during sex.

* Most people think the way to reduce anxiety or emotional problems around sex is to create incredible sex. That’s exactly wrong.

* Figuring out what kind of sex you want is not the same as knowing what you don’t want. That can be challenging when people are used to thinking in the vocabulary of sexual “dysfunction.”

* Adults (especially those with common health challenges) must redefine “sexy” to include someone—-themselves—-in a physical state that society specifically defines as unsexy.

* If you want to enjoy sex, stop looking for romance or spontaneity.

* Sex is meaningless until and unless we give it meaning. Most people give it too much meaning, and the wrong kind of meaning. Then they complain that sex is too complicated.

* We overburden our genitalia with too much responsibility for making sex enjoyable.

* One reason so many people drink before or during sex is that the pressure of getting it right is just too much.

* You’d be foolish to craft a definition of sexy or manly or womanly that excludes you.

* Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person. Most of us don’t have that body very long. So if we want to enjoy sex when we develop a different body, we better have a different model of sexuality.

Remember: Sex isn’t just an activity—it’s an idea.


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